by Suzie Doscher - Professional Executive and Life Coach
People who are exhausting to be around because they drain your energy are energy vampires.
They seem to be part of everyone’s life, be this in your personal life or with colleagues at work.
Sometimes, even the cashier in the supermarket can drain your energy! It feels as though someone is turning down your volume or dimming your light switch.
At times you do not even notice this straight away. You simply begin noticing something is not quite right or certainly not the way you felt five minutes ago. It is possible to realise this only when you are no longer in their company.
Sadly, an energy vampire is often not even aware of their bad habit.
Negative people seem to have a need to find more negativity. If you are not in a similar frame of mind, i.e. you are in a good mood, they start draining you and can be quite unaware of what they are doing. The result usually is you feel down, unhappy, drained, and exhausted. In the worst-case
scenario you might even find yourself getting a headache.
by Suzie Doscher
In the past it was always 'there is life, and then there is work'.
Somehow in recent decades it seems they can be so intertwined that you ‘live to work’ rather than the other way around and ‘work to have a life’.
The term ‘Work-Life Balance’ seems to be all over the place now and usually closely related to preventing 'Burnout’. As a professional coach focusing on personal development I have been lucky to work with many Millennials. (Apparently these younger generations X & Y, are now all mixed together and make up ‘Generation Stress’!)
What I have learned from these young, motivated and focused young individuals is:
Not only is it important to them to achieve their goals yet work/life balance HAS to be in the mix. A good life means quality of life both at home and at work. This is what they strive for and frequently the goal in our coaching.
Work-Life Balance An Essential Ingredient to Success
My younger clients are inspiring and fun to work with. I value being by their side supporting and witnessing their growth as they strive to reach professional goals and enjoy their life at the same time.
By Christopher Peterson Ph.D for Psychology Today
When psychologists advocate a strengths-based approach, I hear it as an important correction to decades of interventions (in clinics, schools, and workplaces) that focused on problems and their remediation. I do not hear it as advice to ignore weaknesses and problems or as an assertion that change is only possible if a person is already skilled at something. Somehow this completely reasonable advice has been morphed into the completely unreasonable proposal that only strengths matter, and I have been asked repeatedly about the evidence in favor of addressing only one's strengths if one wishes to achieve a good life.
We don't need studies to refute the claim that only strengths matter, just common sense. Regardless of what they do especially well, workers need to have the "strength" of showing up on time, and they need to have the "strength" of being minimally civil to their coworkers. And so on.
Should we put people in positions where they can make use of their strengths? Of course. In my university department, "good" lecturers are asked to teach large-enrollment courses. We can do this because there are enough faculty members with the requisite skills.
Article by Jeff Haden posted in Linkedin
We can all spot a great employee: she's dependable, proactive, hardworking, a great leader, and a great follower. She brings a wide variety of easily defined -- but hard to find -- skills to the table.
Some employees, though, are exceptional. They have skills and qualities that aren't evaluated on performance appraisals but make a huge impact on that individual's performance, the performance of the people around her, and especially on the company's results.
Here are eight signs an employee is truly exceptional:
“My brain isn’t lazy,” says Tim Urban, Harvard grad, musician, blogger at Wait But Why, cofounder of two successful tutoring companies, and expert procrastinator. “It’s dying to work hard because it knows that’s the way to be happy.”
But Tim’s brain has a tendency to get busy with everything other than what’s at the top of his to-do list. He’s always been productive — playing hours of piano, for example, while procrastinating a writing assignment — but his busyness wasn’t moving him any closer to his goals. And, on occasion, it caused misery-inducing side effects: His 90-page thesis was produced in a panicked 72-hour work session before deadline. He got it done, but it wasn’t work he was proud of.
After that low point, Tim told himself it was the kind of work he was being asked to do, not his work habits. Then he promptly moved to L.A. to compose music, a lifelong creative passion. There, the cycle began again. When he had movie scenes to score, he’d blog instead. He couldn’t help but admit to his own vicious pattern. And when he committed to publishing a new Wait But Why post every Tuesday, it became even more apparent: “I find myself researching, learning, going to Wikipedia, doing all the things I was supposed to be doing in college.”
posted by Suzie Doscher
The Rules for Being Human
By Cherie Scott Carter
For support to apply these rules to your life -