Listen to the Audio version narrated by Suzie Doscher - 4.30 mins You choose what you will wear and eat, what films you see, who you socialize with. You make choices all day long in your professional and personal life. In the same way, you also have the choice of which thoughts to focus on. The nice, happy thoughts, of course, are not a problem for they give energy, put a smile on your face, and are inspiring as well as motivating. Everybody has negative thoughts. They are the ones that are easy to obsess over and rob you of energy, leaving you feeling drained. Believe it or not, how long you allow negative thoughts to influence your mood, day, or even life is up to you. Every thought you have either weakens you or strengthens you. It is important to realize that thoughts are not reality. Assumptions are good examples of this. Just because you assume something does not make it true. When you are struggling to stop obsessing about something, remind yourself that you have a choice to move on to a thought that might make you feel better in that moment. It is best to acknowledge negative thoughts when they come up and then choose not to stay with them by distracting yourself. No one can eliminate all bad thoughts, but you can make the conscious decision to be in charge of your thinking. Filter through what is real and what needs your focus. Your mind is yours to control. You cannot control the first thought, but you can control the second. Choose to consciously override thoughts that weaken you. This will allow you to feel you have some personal power. Some suggestions to explore:
Remember that when a negative thought takes hold, you have the power to override it. A most effective tool is to find an object that symbolically represents this knowledge: “I can influence what I think and therefore how I behave.” The object could be anything from a rubber band or leather band around your wrist, to a drawing or photo on your phone, desk, or computer. You can put flowers or a plant on your desk – anything is good. Whenever you see this symbolic object you are reminded of what you are working on. If you choose to stay with a negative thought, then take responsibility for that choice! I tell my clients to choose the consequences of their decisions. If you have a bad time as a result of this decision, you can only blame yourself. It is true that “Where there is a will, there is a way.” You will be amazed how much space is created in your head once you start eliminating thoughts that weaken you. It will take some practice and, most importantly, you’ll need to find the right tools that work for you. Think in terms of reprogramming your software and be patient and kind with yourself during this process. by Suzie Doscher, Professional Executive Coach focusing on Personal Development, Native English Speaking Self-help Author since 2014, BALANCE - A Practical Handbook for Life's Difficult Moments, 3rd updated/revised edition in 2022. Photo credit: Pexels Get in touch with Suzie Doscher to schedule a free chat.
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Suzie Doscher is a Professional Executive Coach focusing on Personal Development. Located in Zurich, Switzerland. Her approach to personal development is practical and successful.
Suzie is happiest when helping people. Her vision is everyone should have access to techniques for personal growth and development. This was the motivation behind her book. Author |