It’s time for bed but your brain won’t stop whirring. You’re heading into an important meeting and feel your mind spiraling. What do you do? We often talk about the longer-term habits and behavior changes that help us live happier, healthier, and more purposeful lives. But sometimes you need in-the-moment strategies for an infusion of calm. We asked Thrive Global’s contributor community which short mental and physical tactics they swear by to quiet a racing mind. Which of these will you try?
Roll your shoulders “My trick is to bring my shoulders forward, up and back in a circular motion slowly. I do this once only. Instantly, my chest opens, my back is straighter, my posture is better, and I feel calmer. All the tension in my neck and shoulders goes away and my head is clear.” —PM, teacher, Ireland
In my experience over all well-being and emotional intelligence are linked, it is hard to have one without the other. It is good to know the skills required to grow emotionally can be developed. The ability to, not only access your intuition - that gut feeling or inner voice - but also to respect what it is telling you is one of these skills. Learning to reshape long-established stifling patterns of behavior allows you to embrace the challenges of life more easily. Part of this is feeling intuitively what is right in a given situation.
You will not gain anything from coaching if you are comfortable remaining passive with respect to difficult situations. Instead of this, be guided, encouraged, supported and motivated in developing your own possibilities to take action.
When you step on the path of personal development bear in mind:
According to the Business Dictionary personal power is “Influence over others, the source of which resides in the person instead of being vested by the position he or she holds.” In my opinion personal power in non-business language is the strength that lies within you. I feel I found my full personal power once I was aware and connected with my core values, had the life skills to handle difficult moments and situations, and had an influence on where my mind took me.
Personal power is composed of:
Knowing who you are
Being comfortable with yourself
Knowing what is right and wrong, a personal code of ethics
Being honest and trustworthy not only with others, but also with yourself
Being dependable, again not only for others, but also for yourself
Living your life from a place of integrity
Handling your choices and their consequences, even the negative ones
Knowing what you want, finding your way forward
Knowing your weaknesses and your strengths
Having an open-heartedand non-judgmental approach
Taking responsibility for your actions and yourself
Addressing the issue would bring clarity and awareness. And yet it is fascinating how quickly talking about a topic that in fact is hurting everybody in some way or another is avoided. The problem could be dealt with and a sense of clarity, peace, and calm could return. Yet the elephant, the sometimes very large elephant, is ignored and walked around, the behavior is to pretend the elephant does not actually exist. Imagine you are in a situation with an elephant in the room. For example, let us say the issue is a miscommunication.: It is painfully obvious you are walking around the elephant. The air is so thick you could cut it, anybody entering the room can feel the bad energy, it is that obvious. Rather than asking what the reasons for this behavior are, you mask your hurt, confusion, frustration, or anger by being superficial and polite. When If someone asks you what is wrong or if you’re okay, you answer: “Nothing” or “I am fine,”
“When I am happy, I see the happiness in others. When I am depressed, I notice that people’s eyes look sad. When I am weary, I see the world as boring and unattractive.” ~ Steve Chandler
Happiness is not a quality easily had by those who fear challenge and difficulty. Happiness, as a matter of fact, can require quite a bit from us if we would develop those traits that produce it at its highest potential.
In other words, happiness is not for the squeamish. It requires us to get our hands dirty in the ditches and mountain sides of life. It requires us to climb and learn and overcome and develop in ways that are not always easy. Here are four reasons happiness is not for wimps:
Christine dreads going into work everyday to face her manager, Paula. She feels as though Paula is ready to criticise her for any mistake that she makes and hence tries to avoid her due to the anxiety that she feels in her presence. Christine spends excessive amounts of time trying to make her work ‘perfect’ before presenting it to Paula - fearful of the critique she will receive. Christine feels like she is constantly undermined and that Paula is threatened when she performs well. Christine describes her as a ‘bad boss’ who makes her feel unsafe and she is looking for a new job.
Recently, the notion of creating psychologically safe cultures and teams in the workplace has become central to our understanding of an effective organisational environment.
You are most productive in the morning, according to research. Your best work happens within a short time span of the day. And you should be making the most of it.
Your morning should be spent on outputs, not inputs.
Do your best work in the morning whilst your brain and body can deliver the best results.
It pays to protect your morning.
Wake up early and be productive with that time.
Don’t spend it on distractions. Don’t even think about scheduling a meeting at a time when you are most focused, efficient and mentally alert to do deep work. Instead of letting others dictate your priorities, give yourself at least an hour to focus without external distractions.
“People who get up early in the morning are hitting it out of the park, doing things we struggle with at other times of the day,”
Break the procrastination cycle and stay on a better track - Life Coaching Zurich
By Unstuck “My brain isn’t lazy,” says Tim Urban, Harvard grad, musician, blogger at Wait But Why, cofounder of two successful tutoring companies, and expert procrastinator. “It’s dying to work hard because it knows that’s the way to be happy.” But Tim’s brain has a tendency to get busy with everything other than what’s at the top of his to-do list. He’s always been productive — playing hours of piano, for example, while procrastinating a writing assignment — but his busyness wasn’t moving him any closer to his goals. And, on occasion, it caused misery-inducing side effects: His 90-page thesis was produced in a panicked 72-hour work session before deadline. He got it done, but it wasn’t work he was proud of. After that low point, Tim told himself it was the kind of work he was being asked to do, not his work habits. Then he promptly moved to L.A. to compose music, a lifelong creative passion. There, the cycle began again. When he had movie scenes to score, he’d blog instead. He couldn’t help but admit to his own vicious pattern. And when he committed to publishing a new Wait But Why post every Tuesday, it became even more apparent: “I find myself researching, learning, going to Wikipedia, doing all the things I was supposed to be doing in college.”
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Suzie Doscher is a Professional Executive Coach and Life Coach focusing on Personal Development. Located in Zurich, Switzerland. Her approach to personal development is practical and successful. Suzie is happiest when helping people. Her vision is everyone should have access to techniques for personal growth and development. This was the motivation behind her book.
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