by Suzie Doscher
Somebody launches a verbal attack on you and you have no idea what triggered it.
It is not always so easy to recognize, let alone acknowledge that you have been verbally abused. A verbal attack is aggressive language and delivered in a manner that it feels like an attack. Sometimes it is not even the words chosen that make it an attack, but the tone alone that can be abusive. Should the person raise the volume of his or her voice, it becomes slightly more obvious that this is indeed a verbal attack. The conflict is verbal rather than physical. Sadly, people tend to mostly talk of physical attacks and ignore just how much verbal abuse there is and how damaging this truly is.
These conflicts can start in many ways including these examples:
Remember: their attack does not reflect negatively on who you are, rather on who they are.
It is good to take some time to explore your thoughts on this. Think about what you would like to achieve with your response.
Sadly, confrontation seems to be difficult to avoid these days, so be prepared to respond in a manner that allows you to stay true to yourself and let the other person know you will not tolerate it.