By Nicolas Cole
Being productive is all about preparation. If you know what you need to do ahead of time, you will know exactly where to dive in as soon as you get started. On the flip-side, if you do not take the time to prepare, you will find yourself flustered and uncertain because you now have to think through whatever it is you need to do.
Having a great week does not start on Monday. It starts Sunday night. It begins with what you set in your mind you are going to do, before you actually set out to do it.
Here are a few ways to "get your mind right" for the week ahead:
1. Reflect on what you've already finished.
Your to-do list is, and will always be, fluid. It moves as you move, and it stays put as you stay put. If you don't get things done, they remain on the list. And if you are always getting things done, then your list will be a growing and expanding reflection of that process (which is the goal).
However, in order to know what is "next," you need to take a moment to reflect on the status of where things currently are. Look through your to-do list from the week prior and see what you got done or didn't get done--and then ask yourself why certain things got accomplished and others didn't.
If something remains on your to-do list for weeks on end, you need to make a decision: Either remove it entirely (clearly it's not getting done) or push it all the way to the top and make it a priority to do that item before anything else.
Take the time to reflect, though. It is immensely valuable over the long term....read more..
by Suzie Doscher
Somebody launches a verbal attack on you and you have no idea what triggered it.
It is not always so easy to recognize, let alone acknowledge that you have been verbally abused. A verbal attack is aggressive language and delivered in a manner that it feels like an attack. Sometimes it is not even the words chosen that make it an attack, but the tone alone that can be abusive. Should the person raise the volume of his or her voice, it becomes slightly more obvious that this is indeed a verbal attack. The conflict is verbal rather than physical. Sadly, people tend to mostly talk of physical attacks and ignore just how much verbal abuse there is and how damaging this truly is.
These conflicts can start in many ways including these examples:
by Cayla Vidmar posted on Thrive Global
I lay in bed in the middle of the night, looking at the ceiling when my chest seized up in excruciating pain. This chest pain was something that had been going on for some time, but this was next level.
At that moment I realized something was wrong: I hated my job, the one I had worked so hard to get.
My job itself wasn’t overly stressful, but I couldn’t shake the thought that my life still wasn’t what I thought it should be, and it was quickly ticking by, with every year being the same as the last.
The work I was doing wasn’t changing people’s lives, I wasn’t helping anyone, I didn’t feel like there was any meaning in my day to day life.
On top of that, I couldn’t figure out what my purpose was, or what I’d rather be doing. I was running in circles, consuming as much information as I could about starting businesses and flip-flopping from one passion to the next.
I have attended some events and thought the same "UGH" when I heard the word Icebreaker! I whole heartedly agree that bringing the group together, creating a safe environment and encouraging a feeling of connection is important for a workshop / group event to get off the ground successfully. Some people will open up more easily if they have had 'eye contact' with the people next to them, others are happy to open up without this being necessary. Individuals are exactly that 'individual'.
I like the suggestions in this article because they offer 'ice breakers' that are more neutral and connect the group in a more meaningful way in my opinion.
As Peter Block says: "“Connection before Content.” If a group is going to concentrate on a difficult issue, they need to learn who others are, the skills they bring, the experience they represent, and the values they hold".
and Nancy Dixon's rule are great.
Please! No More Icebreakers -
Suzie Doscher is a Professional Executive Coach and Life Coach focusing on Personal Development. Located in Zurich, Switzerland. Her approach to personal development is practical and successful.
Suzie is happiest when helping people.
Her vision is everyone should have access to techniques for personal growth and development. This was the motivation behind her books.
Look out for the updated and revised version of 'Balance - The Practical Handbook' coming in 2018.