by Suzie Doscher,
Executive and Life Coach, Zurich
According to the Business Dictionary personal power is “Influence over others, the source of which resides in the person instead of being vested by the position he or she holds.” In my opinion personal power in non-business language is the strength that lies within you. I feel I found my full personal power once I was aware and connected with my core values, had the life skills to handle difficult moments and situations, and had an influence on where my mind took me.
Personal power is composed of:
Personal power is an inner strength. Often you do not know you have it until it is needed. Personal power is acquired while growing up, through making mistakes, learning from these, making better choices,and trying new approaches. All of this contributes to personal growth and development–mastering oneself. This means living with respect for yourself, being true to yourself and to what is important to you. Once you know what it feels like to have your full personal power, it is hard to compromise that feeling.
What does it mean to have personal power?
People say, “You have power,” or “Take your power back!” What are they talking about?
In my personal and professional opinion,you are in the place of knowing you can handle anything that is thrown at you – that is feeling your personal power. When obstacles pop up, your emotional triggers trip you up, or you are on the receiving end of someone else’s emotions having been triggered and you handle it well and regain your sense of balance relatively quickly. When you feel in control of your emotions, your life, your path, and your way forward. Life is difficult yet you feel you can handle the obstacles – that is having personal power.
Here are a few examples of what it feels like to have your power:
With your personal power intact you can solve problems and achieve the results you want.
All of this contributes to personal growth and development – mastering oneself, not others. After giving your power away to others often enough, and putting yourself in a weak spot, you eventually learn how to make better choices. This is all part of life and its lessons.