Everybody has a past. Living in the past, however, robs you of the present, the present moment, the ‘now’. In my coaching practice, exploring some of the ‘baggage’ filled with issues relating to your past is necessary to find out what exactly you are still hanging on to. Pain that remains should be healed and beliefs that sabotage you with constricting behaviour patterns replaced by healthier patterns. Enjoy your happy, loving and exciting memories. Allow them to energise you, offer you creativity and inspiration, but do not hang on to anything no longer of value. Explore it, examine it, heal it and move on. Letting go of the past and living in the present while looking towards the future is rejuvenating. Exercise. (Have pen and paper and time to write your thoughts down) Start by exploring where you stand in relation to your past and how it might be affecting your present day life. Are you holding on to old thinking patterns that are no longer relevant, or serve you now? These will have created behaviour patterns, which are limiting and disempowering for how you wish to live your life. We are going to cover the following areas: • Acknowledging the good and bad from the past • Exploring what you are thankful for • Considering what had to happen for you to be where you are now • What and/or whom (including yourself) to stop judging • Any unfinished business and/or open ends Exploration and Fact gathering: 1. What was good about your past? What are you thankful for? 2. What still has a negative and/or disempowering hold on you? Such as thoughts, feelings, people and so on. 3. What old habits still control some of your behaviour? 4. List successes in the past. What had to happen for you to have that success? 6. Whom (including yourself) are you still judging and/or blaming relating to the past? 7. Whom can you thank, and what for? 8. What do you have to accept? This could be accepting someone’s limitations and therefore reducing your expectations or making them more realistic. I like the quote: “You cannot change people but you can change how you react to them.” 9. Who do you need to talk to, ask something of or gain a better understanding of? 10. Are there any open ends or unresolved issues? (Such as physical, financial, environmental.) What jumped out at you from this exploration? What not to forget i.e.: Today I am ....................................................................thanks to .......................................................... or ……............... (write whatever works best for you) Think of this as the first step in the process. One step up the ladder gets you closer. by Suzie Doscher, Executive Coach, Personal Development Photo credit: Suzie Doscher an excerpt from BALANCE - an Interactive Workbook by Suzie Doscher Comments are closed.
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Suzie Doscher is a Professional Executive Coach focusing on Personal Development. Located in Zurich, Switzerland. Her approach to personal development is practical and successful.
Suzie is happiest when helping people. Her vision is everyone should have access to techniques for personal growth and development. This was the motivation behind her book. Author |