An excerpt from 'BALANCE - A Practical Handbook for Life's Difficult Moments' by Suzie Doscher
'Der Regenbogen' by Alberto Giacometti
We all know that feeling of “knowing” we should not be following through with a decision, but we go on and do it anyway. This can be as simple as turning right when driving somewhere when we feel that turning left is really what we should be doing. You know it is wrong because it does not feel right on some level, yet your brain overrules that feeling with mind chatter or you allow someone else to influence you.
Your intuition – your gut feeling – is always there to let you know when you are not being true to yourself or to your soul. It does this by making you uncomfortable with what is going on, and this is a sensation that most often arises in the gut. You are born with an unimpaired intuition, a pure one rather like the instincts animals have. Somehow while growing up this unimpaired intuition becomes suppressed, blocked by something and overruled by the mind.
Lessons to be learned about intuition
How can you tell when your intuition is giving you guidance? One of my father’s favourite phrases was “When in doubt…out.” The “doubt” in this instance is your intuition attempting to tell you something about the decision you are about to make.
It is very important to know and accept that everybody has an intuitive sense.
Think of that “gut feeling” again of simply knowing something is not right even while you go on and do it anyway. This “knowing” is your intuition, your inner voice. Its main job is to keep you safe and put you on track if you get side-tracked from the wishes, desires, values, and path of your true self.
Think of an artist who gets inspiration for a project, a painting, a song, a performance, a photograph, or a movie. He or she is connected to his or her creative intuition almost like a divine inspiration.
Sometimes you will only listen to your gut feeling once your mind has exhausted itself of its rationalizations.
Your mind prefers things to remain the same so it will happily deliver all the reasons not to listen to your inner guidance. The mind speaks loud and often with harsh words, rationalizing its suggestions based on past events. It finds ways to keep you behaving the same way as ever. This is one of the reasons patterns of old habits are so difficult to part with, even when we really want to start doing something differently.
The inner voice, your intuition, does not use words to communicate with you.
You will know when it is speaking. You will feel it in your gut or your heart. However, to “hear” it you will need some quiet time, away from mind chatter. This space allows your gut feeling to sense what is right.
One of the best pieces of advice anybody can offer is to “sleep on it”: not to react to something but to wait until it is right for you to act upon it. If you put a problem in an imaginary box the night before going to sleep and upon waking ask yourself what is the right thing to do, the answer will come from your intuition instead of being smothered by the day’s events. When following your intuitive insight a sense of calm and relaxation will be with you. If the mind offers a solution that is not right, however, you will probably remain feeling a little uncomfortable if not tense, depending on the importance of the matter in question.
The more you listen to your inner voice, the more it can develop.
It is like a muscle that can become stronger. Learn to trust it.
Your intuition is powerful: if you listen to it, allow it to guide you, it has the ability to shape your reality.
When meeting new people you have an intuitive sense about them that lets you know when it is appropriate not to trust a person or situation. You can attempt to rationalize all you like but you will probably later find that this did not make a difference. Your intuition is your soul’s guidance system and trumps all.
Becoming acquainted with your inner voice will move you closer to yourself. This of course offers wonderful chances to make choices based on what your life means to you. The benefits of living your life while basing your actions not only on your mind’s wisdom but also that of your soul will be immensely rewarding. In my coaching practice I find repeatedly that connecting people to their true self is what makes the biggest difference. Once you are living in that place of authenticity, most large problems become much smaller and are more easily coped with because you have your inner guidance system to accompany you. You are never alone.
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