by Suzie Doscher
In reality there is no such thing as a bad day. If you interpret or perceive something to be bad, then that is the way it is. I like the quote: “What is the difference between a weed and a flower?” Answer: “An opinion”.
Being in a bad mood happens to everybody, but it is what you do about it that changes the outcome of the day. Telling yourself to “cheer up” or pretending all is well when you are feeling that way never helps. Try not to fight it. Go with your feelings and let them out. If you are angry, do some anger management. If you are frustrated, work out what you can influence. If you are tired, make sure you find some down time even if it means going to bed at 8pm! Recognize and accept your bad mood in order for you to be able to do something about it.
• Accept that you are having a bad day.
• Ask yourself what specifically is making this a bad day.
• What would make it better?
• If you had any influence, how could you make a difference?
• What are the chances of your being able to do something about making it better?
• How could you help?
• Think of a couple of actions you could take.
• Choose the one that feels right.
• What do you have to do now to make that happen?
• And after that…
• You can influence how you see or cope with the day.
As harsh as it sounds it is true that if you are not part of the solution you are part of the problem. There is always something that can be done, no matter how small. As my mother always says: “Busy hands are happy hands.”
(an excerpt from BALANCE - A Practical Handbook for Life's Difficult Moments by Suzie Doscher)
A Practical Handbook