by Suzie Doscher
One of the main motivators not to settle for less is' life is too short'. Time seems to be flying by faster and faster, all the more reason to make sure you are enjoying it. Equally make sure your life offers you a sense of fulfillment. Settling for less is something everybody does at some point or another but it is best not to make it a lifestyle!
Find out what you want - from having experienced what you do not want!
Settling for less means you made the choice to limit yourself and your potential. This could be seen as a waste of time however if you learn from it, your time was not wasted. You can figure out what to do differently. Click 'Read More' below
by Suzie Doscher, Executive and Life Coach Zurich
This is a big topic and unique to each person depending on what exactly your self-sabotage routine is and how it shows up. Have you ever wondered just how much you hold yourself back and / or limit yourself with self-sabotaging behaviour patterns?
Self-sabotage can be described as running interference on yourself. I suggest ‘awareness’ is the first and most important step towards dealing with it – the awareness of this patterns existence.
Everybody has an inner saboteur’; the ‘inner critic’. Think of the times when you have asked yourself “Why did I do that?” I like to think of self-sabotage as ‘a virus in the software,’ The job is to get rid of it and run a new program. Healthy routines are those that move your life forward, such as maintaining some kind of equilibrium, maintaining your physical and mental health. ...Click 'Read More' below
By Suzie Doscher
Being subjected to passive aggressive behaviour from anybody, be this in a shop, at home, in school or at work can be not only confusing but also hurtful and uncomfortable to be around.
Frequently this behaviour and manner of speaking comes from someone who has not learned how to express emotions, let alone negative ones. Instead of being in touch with their feelings, they redirect these emotions in a passive aggressive manner. Sometimes the person is not even aware of this.
Obviously this is a generalization and in no way should be thought of as the truth for everybody who behaves passive aggressively. Sometime people are just having a bad day and letting it out with inconsiderate and disrespectful manners.
Common characteristics of passive aggressive people:
By Daniel Goleman, Contributor, Korn Ferry Institute
He was doing great—at least in his own line of vision. As a senior director at a Fortune 500 retail company, Greg had become one of the company’s best performers, overseeing a $1 billion market. He knew he wasn’t afraid to take swift action and that he brought true intensity to his work. The company had even handed him a second market.
But it turned out that our confident district manager had a critical blind spot: himself. He didn’t realize that all that vaunted success had come at the expense of the store managers he constantly berated. Intensity, in his case, meant focusing only on what was wrong. Sure, he had managed to spot and fire failing managers before, but in his new territory, he had demoralized the team so much that too many leaders for him to oust were missing their targets. As the second market’s results sank, Greg couldn’t understand what was wrong.
Think about it: Is there anything more frustrating than a corporate executive who is clueless about his or her own weaknesses? Is there no harder leader to work with or improve? ...Click 'Read More' below
by Suzie Doscher - An excerpt from BALANCE - An Interactive Workbook for Self-Coaching
If you say “no”, to what are you saying “yes”?
The answer to that question is: to you. You are choosing yourself as the priority - that is the bottom line of learning how to say “no”.
It can happen without you even noticing that your life no longer feels as though it is your own.
Overwhelming work demands, busy family schedules, even modern technology seem to add stress
by making us accessible all the time. Everything else becomes a priority, while you and your own
personal life, values, beliefs, thoughts, wishes, and dreams come in second place, if not third. Your
attention ends up being stretched in too many directions with no time left to think about yourself.
The result is stress leading to more stress and hopefully not a burnout.
I like to think of the much bigger picture of life when it comes to the understanding, motivation and learning of how to respect yourself in the first instance. By no stretch of the imagination does this mean you will be
disrespecting others and/or their wishes or job demands. It means you respect yourself and hold
yourself in equal position to others. If you are thoughtful, openhearted and conscientious about
how you treat people and your job, then surely you can only really give it your best if you are in
good shape. ...Click 'Read More' below
Suzie Doscher is a Professional Executive Coach and Life Coach focusing on Personal Development. Located in Zurich, Switzerland her practical, common sense and enabling approach to personal development has drawn clients to her from across the globe. Suzie