An Excerpt from Suzie Doscher's Interactive Workbook for Self-Coaching
People who are exhausting to be around because they drain your energy are energy vampires.
They seem to be part of everyone’s life, be this in your personal life or with colleagues at work.
Sometimes, even the cashier in the supermarket can drain your energy! It feels as though someone
is turning down your volume or dimming your light switch.
At times you do not even notice this straight away. You simply begin noticing something is not quite right or certainly not the way you felt five minutes ago. It is possible to realise this only when you are no longer in their company.
Sadly, an energy vampire is often not even aware of their bad habit.
Negative people seem to have a need to find more negativity. If you are not in a similar frame of
mind, i.e. you are in a good mood, they start draining you and can be quite unaware of what they
are doing. The result usually is you feel down, unhappy, drained, and exhausted. In the worst-case
scenario you might even find yourself getting a headache.
Tips to help you deal with the situation:
if he or she is a member of your family, or you work with them, this is the time to try out how well
you set boundaries. Practice saying “no”. The more you do this, the easier it becomes. A very wise
friend once told me, “Remember, you can walk out of the room, but they are still in the room with
Suzie Doscher, Life Coach for Personal Development in Zurich, Switzerland
A Practical Handbook