Article from The Spirit Science, January 26, 2016
It’s hard to live your life in a confident way. We face nearly constant pressures from society to conform to certain expectations that you may not agree with. Society tends to put us down when we don’t fit the bill as a model citizen; pretty, successful, rich. As a result, our self-esteem is always taking a beating. How can we improve our self esteem?
Making mistakes is the easy part. More importantly, accept your mistakes as things which grow you as a person. Don’t let your mistakes cripple your spirit, and definitely don’t allow your mistakes to become ammunition for someone trying to bring you down. Accept them, learn from them, and move on.
I was once told that the way the message was delivered doesn’t matter, but the contents of the message do. Accept criticism, whether it’s intended to be constructive or hurtful. Don’t take anything personally. Use what others have to say to better yourself. If what they’re telling you is simply a personal attack, disregard and move on.
Don’t speak badly of yourself.
If you’re paid a compliment, accept it! Don’t try to talk yourself out of enjoying a little bit of praise. Tell yourself positive affirmations. You are good enough. You look fine the way you are. There’s nothing wrong with you. Any improvement should happen because you really want to be better, not because you don’t think you’re good enough.
Hold your head high.
Truly confident people don’t stare at the ground as they walk. It may seem silly, but your posture is important. When you hold your head high, you signal to yourself and the world that you aren’t afraid, that you can handle anything, and you have high self-esteem.
Don’t accept abuse.
Abuse is one of the biggest causes of poor self-esteem. Many times, when people are treated poorly, they find themselves believing they deserve it. I’m going to tell you a truth that cannot be debated:
No one deserves abuse of any kind.No, you didn’t do anything to deserve it. Yes, you can walk away from toxic relationships at any time.
Some things in life are worth proceeding with caution on, like going into debt buying a home or switching careers. But don’t let negative self-talk keep you from taking risks and achieving the big goals in life that you want. You’re smart enough to handle it.
Be the best you that you can be.
At the core of it all, to best lift your self-esteem, allow yourself to be the best you that you can be. Only you know how to be you, so proceed through each day with your head held high knowing that you are exactly who you want to be. And if you want to improve, do it for the right reasons.
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